Pointing can seem like a small thing — but for toddlers, it is one of the first real ways to say “look at that” and “I want that” before the words come. If your 18-month-old isn’t pointing or gesturing yet, it is understandable to wonder what it means. Here is a warm, plain look at why gestures matter and what you can do.
Why gestures come before words
Long before children have a full vocabulary, they communicate with their bodies. Waving, reaching, shaking their head, clapping, and pointing are all ways of connecting and sharing. These pre-speech skills lay the groundwork for talking, so noticing them can tell you a lot about how communication is developing.
Many toddlers point before they say more than a few words. A child who points, gestures, and looks to you to share is building the exact skills that speech grows from.
Requesting versus showing
There are two kinds of pointing, and both matter:
- Requesting — pointing to get something, like the cookie on the counter.
- Showing — pointing just to share a moment, like spotting a bus and glancing back at you.
Showing to share is an especially meaningful social-communication skill, because it means your child wants to connect, not only to get.
Playful ways to encourage gestures
- Model constantly. Wave hello and goodbye, point at pictures in books, clap, and blow kisses.
- Create a reason. Put a favorite toy in a clear container or slightly out of reach so your child has to point or reach.
- Offer choices. Hold up two snacks and wait for a point or a look.
- Respond right away. The moment your child gestures, react with delight and words: “You see the dog! Woof!”
Keep it light and fun. This is play, not practice.
When it’s worth checking
None of these mean something is wrong, but they are reasons to look closer:
- No pointing or gesturing to communicate
- Not looking to share things with you
- Not following your point when you gesture at something
- Little back-and-forth in play
It is also reasonable to ask your pediatrician about a hearing check, since hearing supports all of communication.
Getting a free EI evaluation in NYC
You do not need a diagnosis or a doctor’s referral. In New York, Early Intervention serves children from birth to age 3 and is free to families — insurance or Medicaid may be billed, but you pay nothing. Refer to Star EIP directly or call 311. The NYC Early Intervention Program reviews the referral and arranges a free developmental evaluation, usually at home. If your child is eligible, you and the team build a plan together.
For the bigger picture, see your child’s 18-month milestones. If talking is also on your mind, our page on not talking yet is a helpful companion.
Following your instincts is exactly the right move. A developmental evaluation is always free. See if your child qualifies.
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